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I find these questions really entertaining…
Someone asked:
Hey Milena, my boyfriend and I really want to have anal sex but don’t know how gross it might be. What precautions can I take to not make it gross? How long before sex should I go to the bathroom to poop? Thanks, love your blog.
Um. I always get questions about anal and dodge them, but I’ll answer yours and make a mental note to write about this at some point.
I don’t have tons of insight regarding anal sex because it is not one of my preferred sexual acts, but I guess I can give you some basic pointers:
• Go take a dump to clear out your bowels. Shower while you’re at it, to make sure your ass is sparkling clean and there are no dangling bits of TP— you know that shit happens. (no pun intended)
• Use a lot of lube, and get good shit. In general, I prefer water-based lubes like Liquid Silk (which is the bomb and the most natural-feeling one I’ve found) but if you’re engaging in some butt play, I would recommend some silicone-based lube, as it doesn’t dry out as quickly. (It is harder to wash off, though, so it’s your call.)
• Don’t go from 0 to 60 in 3.5. Dude, if you’ve never had anything up your ass and suddenly you’re getting a lot of it, it might be hard on you. (I know for me it was.) Ease into it; try one, two fingers, make sure you are relaxed and not clenching up, and when you feel confident enough, go in for the kill. I strongly suggest getting a butt plug and practicing with it until you are comfortable with things up your ass.
• Have the guy wear a condom if you don’t want a sloppy mess of goo inside your ass. In general, I appreciate how clean condoms make sex. No jizz in any cavities!
• And most importantly: You can go from the vag to the ass but not the other way around. So if you want to have anal as part of your foreplay, make absolutely sure that he puts on a new condom before P-in-the-V intercourse. (Or, if you guys rely on some other form of BC, just make sure he uses a condom during anal and takes it off before intercourse. You know what I mean.)
Anyway, that’s all I got, hopefully it helps! If anybody has anything to add or to ask, formspring me.
